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Coronavirus: dealing with bereavement

Dealing with bereavement is never easy.

But it could be especially difficult at the moment as you also face many other stresses. Coronavirus has left many of us feeling isolated; we may also be dealing with job losses, precarious finances and more.

We’ve already written guides on how to manage your mental health during this time, and we’ll also be updating our blog with details on how to manage finances too. In this blog, we’ll be looking at loss and sharing some things that might help you cope.

Bereavement and loss

Even if you don’t have mental health problems or a history of trauma, loss can be an extremely difficult thing to experience. You may feel grief for many reasons: the death of a loved one, a serious illness or the end of a relationship, for example.

Some of the most common symptoms, according to the NHS, are:

  • shock and numbness – this is usually the first reaction to loss, which people often talk about as “being in a daze”
  • overwhelming sadness and crying
  • tiredness or exhaustion
  • anger towards the person you’ve lost or the reason for your loss
  • guilt – about feeling angry, about something you said or didn’t say, or not being able to stop your loved one dying

These symptoms may not come immediately, or they might surface a long time after a bereavement happens. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve.

How to get support with bereavement

how to deal with bereavement and coronavirus

To start, there are a number of hotlines you can call which will help you through your bereavement. You can contact Cruse on 0808 808 1677; they have specialist teams who can help you with whatever you’re struggling with. They’re also updating their resources around coronavirus in particular, so if someone close to you passes away from Covid they will be able to help.

Talking to friends and family is also a good option. At times, you may not know how you feel: talking this through with people you trust can help you process what you’re going through.

Being kind to yourself is also key. If you are going through significant grief, there may be times you don’t want to get out of bed, eat or do anything at all. This is perfectly normal, and you should try your best not to feel frustrated with yourself or push yourself too hard to do anything you feel you ‘should’ be doing but aren’t up to.

However, you may also want to create a short routine. This doesn’t have to be anything too taxing or complex – it could be something as small as getting out of bed at a certain time or trying to eat at least a few times a day. Again, it’s important you don’t push yourself too hard and give yourself the space to grieve. But creating some structure in your day may make things easier.

Finally, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. If things are getting really hard, you may want to contact your GP; updated telephone opening hours should be on their website. They may be able to signpost you to specialist services. If you already have a care coordinator or other support worker, don’t be afraid to ask for support from them.

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If there’s anything you think we’ve missed, or you have some tips on how to cope with bereavement, please get in touch.

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Coronavirus: managing your mental health

The coronavirus outbreak has changed all of our lives – and had a significant impact on mental health. We’ve already outlined some of the things you might be going through at the moment – not being able to go outside for days at a time, decreased contact with friends and family, higher exposure to the news, loss of earnings or work opportunities.

Coronavirus and mental health

There are lots of ways coronavirus could be impacting how you’re feeling.

You might be missing family, struggling without support networks, or wishing you could get outside more. And with 24 hour rolling news channels and social media, it can be extremely hard to switch off.

We’ve put together some resources below on how you can manage your mental health during this period. If you have any particular coping strategies or tips that you’d like to share with us, or a topic you want to see us cover, get in touch with Emily at emilyoliviareynolds@gmail.com.

Self care

A good routine can help your mental health through coronavirus

With such upheaval, it’s likely that your normal routine has gone out of the window. Trying to establish some kind of routine may mitigate some of this.

  • The Mental Health Foundation suggests planning your day in advance. Try to get up at the same time you normally would, and specifically schedule in certain things. Know when you’re going to shower, set aside time to go outside and exercise (even a walk is great), and time for relaxation.
  • Going outside may make you feel better. If you have a garden, try to spend time in that: you are also allowed to go for one walk a day, which we highly recommend you do if you can. If you can’t, open a window in your flat and try to get some fresh air and sunlight.
  • Moving your body will also help. A once a day walk is a good start, as is going for a run or cycle ride. If you have to stay indoors, you can still move your body! There are plenty of online exercise videos if you want to do something like aerobics, and yoga and pilates classes are available on YouTube – Yoga With Adriene even has yoga for wheelchair users or those who have limited mobility. Just dancing around the room can make you feel good, or going for a gentle walk in a garden or outdoor space if you can.
  • Monitor your sleep. Many people will be having difficult sleeping at the moment due to changes in routine, lack of direct light, and moving around or exercising less. Going outside once a day can help with this or, as mentioned above, opening a window and getting some fresh air.There are also other things you can do to help your sleep. Get up and go to bed at the same time, establishing a proper routine. Try to keep electronics out of your bedroom if you can, and try not to look at your phone, laptop or TV for an hour or so before bed.
  • Try to tune out of social media. It’s natural to want to keep up with what’s going on in the world. But compulsively checking social media can seriously impact your mental health, making you feel fearful and anxious. It can be difficult, especially if your phone is your line of communication with friends, family and the world, but setting short periods of time to be away from your phone can really help.

Community

Community may help your mental health during the coronavirus crisis.

Making sure you’re well connected during this time can be a big help for your mental health.

You may find it helpful to:

  • Regularly schedule calls with loved ones. This can be something as simple as a ten minute phone call every day, but you can schedule other activities. Netflix Party lets you watch films on Netflix with your friends, meaning you can chat and watch films or TV together even when apart. Some people have also been using Skype or Zoom to host trivia quizzes for friends and family. Staying connected is really important, so find out what works well for you.
  • Join your local mutual aid group. Across the country, people have been teaming up to offer community support, help and advice to those in their area. They’re doing shopping for people, picking up medication, checking in on vulnerable people or offering moral support or just conversation.If you’re vulnerable, you may find these groups useful for helping you do shopping or access community support. And if you want to donate time or energy to helping your neighbours, you may find a feeling of solidarity and community. Find your local mutual aid group here.
  • Join chats with activist or support groups. Alongside mutual aid groups, lots of activist groups have been organising to keep people connected. The Survivors Library, which creates and collects resources by, for, or about abuse and assault survivors, is hosting regular chats through April, and a group called Mad Covid is also acting as a community space to help people with mental illness or distress through the current situation.
  • Keep in touch with mental health workers or carers. If they haven’t already been in contact, call or email support workers to see what support they can offer you. If you’re in therapy, check to see if your therapist can help you remotely. Many psychotherapists now offer online or telephone sessions – and while these may not work for you, they are worth trying.

Further resources

We’ll be writing regular blogs over the next few weeks to help you cope with coronavirus. These will include posts on finances and money and on bereavement.

If there’s anything you want to see us cover, or you’d like to write about your experiences, let us know. You can find us on Facebook or Twitter, or contact us here.

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Coronavirus: dealing with the outbreak

The ongoing situation with coronavirus is not easy for anybody’s mental health or wellbeing. 

At the moment, government advice is that you can go outside for one form of exercise per day, and that you can also leave the house to get food, for health reasons, if you are a key worker, or if you’re caring for vulnerable people. 

While outside, stay six feet (two metres) away from others at all times. You should also wash your hands for at least twenty seconds after you’ve gone outside. 

If you want more information on what’s going on, we recommend you look at reputable news sources such as the BBC or the Guardian. The Guardian currently has a useful set of explainers on its site. 

For medical information or guidance on what you should be doing, don’t rely too heavily on social media. Facebook and Twitter often contain fake news and misinformation, which can add to feelings of fear, anxiety and confusion. Instead, check with the World Health Organisation or the NHS, who will only be sharing verified information. 

Helping you cope with coronavirus

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be sharing information to help you deal with what’s going on. You’ll be able to find all of these posts by clicking here

This will include posts on:

  • Coronavirus and mental health – how to keep up with self care and manage your mental health during the coronavirus outbreak
  • How to practically deal with isolation – how to keep in touch with friends and loved ones, make sure you’re getting enough fresh air, and checklists on things you might need at home
  • Money management and finances – how to apply for universal credit, how to access food banks and more
  • Bereavement – how to deal with the loss of loved ones
  • Mutual Aid – how to get involved in or get help from local mutual aid groups.

If there’s any information you think we’re missing, or you’d like to see a blog on a particular topic, please get in touch with our Policy and Campaigns Manager at emilyoliviareynolds@gmail.com